Monday, 23 March 2009

Stop Being So Prude And Get Your Kit Off

I have had four new neighbours within the last couple of months. They are all lovely people - friendly, clean, quiet and considerate. One of them is a Japanese lady. She is very friendly but I've realised that she is a bit forgetful. Like she forgets that she's got eggs boiling on the stove and the water's run dry and the eggs are starting to smell... like a bad fart. She also forgot her laundry in the washing machine the other day. For as long as I have lived here, if someone leaves their laundry in their washing machine and you need to use it you just take their stuff out and dump it in the dryer (without turning it on in case there are delicates in there and it'll shrink... see, I'm considerate like that). Well, my neighbour had left her laundry in the machine for a while and I needed to use it so I took her stuff out and put it in the dryer. About half an hour later she approached me in the kitchen and asked if I was the one to do the laundry after her. She wanted to know because she had her UNDERWEAR (oh deep horror!!!) in there. I said yes, it was me and I took your stuff out. I also told her that I've told the others that they can do the same because often the person who does the laundry forgets about it, falls asleep or goes out. And if that happens it's not fair that the others won't be able to use the washing machine until they remember. She gave me an angry look and said I just wanted to make sure it was you and NOT A MAN, thank you, thank you! (Wow, Japanese people are polite even when there pissed off with you!).

In all the years I have been living here it has never crossed my mind that my male neighbours would take any interest in my underwear. I have also never thought that me taking someone elses laundry out of the machine and putting it in the dryer would cause upset. It's not as if I was taking her laundry out piece by piece, putting her knickers on my head, taking a photo of it and posting it on Facebook. I seriously couldn't give a shit what her underwear looks like. I just wanted to use the machine.

But this led me to think about when I go for a swim (yeah, joined the gym a couple of weeks ago) and the women using the communal showers actually shower with their bathing suits on.

Being a Swede, where nudity is something natural, this is incredibly strange to me. When I'm in the communal showers I notice that these women are still wearing their swimmers but had they been naked I wouldn't have batted an eyelid. Why is it that some women, depending on their upbringing, culture or religion, cannot get undressed in front of other women. We all look the same. And when I'm in the shower I don't look at what your bodies look like. I'm busy trying to squeeze out of my wet, too tight bathing suit and just wash myself. I have no interest in looking at other women. So please, just get your kit off and feel that it's ok to wash yourselves properly. Because you can't really reach all your bits when wearing a Speedo!

8 comments:

Twenty Four At Heart said...

Sounds like some big cultural differences. I wouldn't blink at anyone moving my laundry either, but I guess it just depends on where you're from and what you've been taught your whole life. I used to go to a local women's day spa & everyone went naked. Last time I was there women were all in their bathing suits. It stunned me.

thezeninyou said...

LOL...most Americans are not so much prudes as they have been brainwashed to believe that naked bodies must be perfect. Funny that I write about this too. When I lived in Germany, you looked weird if you covered up! And the saunas we're co-ed (horror!).

American advertising has made women believe that they are bad and ugly if they are anything bigger than a size 2! Look at our role models! Paris Hilton, Lindsay Lohan...emaciated waifs! A size 8 is now considered chubby.

I am working hard to overcome my issues...but I have many years body hating "de-programming" to cut through.

I enjoyed your perspective. And the underwear...lol...I could give a rats ass! I just want to use the dryer too.

karmacoy said...

Just found your blog through reading Caroline's post about her spa experience. Love your outlook! I especially like your profile statement.... "18 with 22 years expereince" It's brilliant and I plan on 'borrowing' that statement!

phd in yogurtry said...

sometimes cultural, and sometimes its how a person is raised, and then, sometimes a child is raised in a family that strives to make nudity "no big deal" but still shows so much pained modesty that the parents are baffled.

Jason, as himself said...

Well, now you really should pull someone's underwear out of the washer, put it on your head, and post it on facebook. And your blog, please, since I don't facebook.

I'm with you! Three cheers for nudity and thoroughly washing your private bits!

dkuroiwa said...

I'm just chuckling to myself here...
First of all...the Japanese lady? The whole "bad fart" thing is everywhere...the daikon (white radish) pickles they make here is THE most horrendous smelling stuff evah!! (though, actually quite tasty!!). so much here is definitely unappealing to the smeller, but if you can get past that, then, it's all (usually) pretty good!
Japanese women are strangely uptight about their underwear. God forbid should anyone else touch yours. ANd....there are many cases of men who steal ladies underwear from the lines, so she was probably thinking some guy was doing that there, too!! :-D

It took me a while to get used to the whole communal bathing concept (even ventured into a co-ed one once....just once...never again). Now, when I go back to the States and go to hotsprings, I'm really uncomfortable sitting there in a swim suit...it just doesn't seem natural to do that!!
And really...showering with a suit on? That's just wrong.

I love the way you look at situations!!

Lo said...

i have to admit, i'm one of the swim suit on gals.... i just... well, in all honesty, i could give a rats ass if you're naked or not. i do, however, care that women can see all of my flaws. i am EXTREMELY insecure and it just gives me the chills to think all the women in the gym are going to be able to SEE ALL OF ME. eep. EEP. the only person who sees all of my is my husband... and i'm not a prude, just a girl who's had some major eating disorder issues and is afraid of bathing suits in public, period.

so. it may not just be a cultural thing... however my russian husband does go the the 'bania' (russian bath house) every sunday, and they're all nude there. so who knows!

Nudiarist said...

Yes, I've seen men at the YMCA showering in their bathing suits. Me, I grew up swimming nude at the Y, and am a social naturist today. Swimming, showering, and being in a sauna with any type of clothing on is just madness.

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